Wanting change in your life is a universal yearning. Everyone wants change in their life but those who actually achieve this change are a minority. Wanting and achieving are totally different and they all require a certain degree of energy. Change is inevitable but I am talking about accomplishments or a desired success that you want to achieve. It can be at work, school, in your relationships and in all facets of your life.
“Change will not happen if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.” Barack Obama.
Most of us are in a position they don’t want to be in.They are either stuck in a job they hate, a relationship they loathe or just plainly hate the lifestyle they are in. The world won’t stop for you, nor will anybody make those changes for you, all these can only be done by you, and no body else. Not your parents, your spouse or your friends. The time of change is now, not tomorrow or next year but now. This very minute. Take a deep breath and say to your self, “the time is now.”
I will start off by the wise words of one Paul R. Scheele, Chairman, Strategies Corporation, he says,
“the phrase I can’t is the most powerful force of negation in the human psyche.”
When you embark on this journey you need to start off by clearing your mind from negativity. This leads to a more serene line of thought because negativity breeds fruitlessness and hopelessness. The phrase “I can’t” disempower you from achieving any solid success, learn to change those words with “I can.” Every morning stand in front of your mirror and chant the words ” I can”, over and over until you actually soak it in and believe it unconditionally. Remind yourself that you only have one life to live and you owe it to yourself to live it the way you feel will bring you happiness. Take those first steps by first changing your attitude.
The journey of seeking ultimate change requires you to be a vessel to carry out the important mission.Being a vessel you have to be mentally, psychologically and physically ready to ultimately reach your destination.Exercise your mind by reading beneficial books, learn to be emotionally intelligent and feed your body healthy nutritious food. Pray to God for guidance, strength and a peace of mind. All these combined will make you calm and you will be a fully functioning person.The goal here is to be a pure vessel, during this journey it’s paramount to be in the zone, in the present. Take responsibility for your actions and never blame others for your failures, this notion sets you apart from being a success or a whining self loathing success wannabe.
Stan Dale [founder of the Human Awareness Institute and author of Fantasies Can Set You Free ] says about himself,
“ I have always been the opposite of a paranoid. I operate as if everyone is part of a plot to enhance my well-being.”
This is a beautiful concept that will elevate you from the rest, it’s rewarding to have such positive views about life. If we imagine the whole world and everything in it is helping us, nudging us and cheering for us. This is a clear indication of how positive thought processes leads to change and success. In the long run being paranoid leads to a mental decay, shut down and depression. Take Stan Dale’s advice and become an inverse paranoid.
Patience is key even though you need to make the changes immediately, you need to exercise patience because the journey can’t happen overnight. It takes time to accomplish complete change in acquiring your desired lifestyle. Take the bull by the horns and be bold and eager. If you are set to make the necessary changes, do so immediately with vigour and humility.
Don’t give up when it gets tough along the way. If anything “bad” happens remember it could be a start of something greater and better.
“Verily, with hardship there comes ease.” Al-Qura’n [94:6]
Personally, discovering the pathway to everlasting change took me a long time. I have always wanted something different for my life. I felt a painful yearning for achieving my dreams. It was an emotional battle. The day I discovered I wasn’t alone in this quest I let out a sigh of relief. After making a lot of prayers to God, I discovered prayers only doesn’t make those changes to take form. God wants you to seek it, through his guidance and your hard work everything will fall into place. My main catalyst that led to my journey was the discovery of the concept that I coined “self blaming”. Only when I stopped blaming others for lack of self drive and blamed myself for being weak and scared, only then did I truly appreciate the changes that took place in my life. I discovered what I vehemently sought.
Whatever you yearn for will come as long as you are ready to do the hard work. You will truly benefit from being whole again. Embark on this journey and brace yourself for an experience of a lifetime.